Tips for Parents of Young Adolescents 

1.  There is no normal!  Get used to differences—your son or daughter is going through a lot of changes:  mentally, physically, and socially.  Embrace these changes and enjoy this unique time in their lives. 

2.  “I forgot.”  You might hear this all of the time.  Young adolescents minds are so preoccupied with other issues that taking out the trash, folding laundry, and turning in homework are often not remembered.  Written daily reminders on a board or in a planner can help.  Encourage them to make a list to help them remember.  Finally, don’t hesitate to offer a friendly reminder. 

3.  CHOOSE YOUR BATTLES!  Young adolescents often feel that they are constantly being corrected.  BUT—if the battle involves your moral beliefs or work ethic, it is definitely one worth fighting! 

4.  Use humor.  If mounds of shoes pile up at the front door, making a joke might be the best way to hint that they need to be taken care of.  “It looks like we’re starting a shoe farm, could you harvest some of those to your room please?”  sounds more inviting than “I’m tired of telling to PICK UP YOUR SHOES!” 

5.  Show interest in your child.  Even if they seem annoyed by your questions, it is important to know who his or her friends are, what they like to do, and what they worry, dream, and think about.  Some of the best discussions can take place in the car! 

6.  Family dinners.  It has been proven time and again that sitting around the dinner table is a great way to keep your young adolescent on the right track.  Give them responsibilities.  Have them set the table, help clean up, or even cook.  Preparing an easy dessert is a great way to get them involved with this evening ritual. 

7.  Above all, let your young adolescent know you are there.  Even when they are the most “unlovable,” love them.  Enjoy this part of his or her life!